The #1 Skill You Need To Be A Better Lover

You know when you hear people saying “I’ve had the best day, year, time of my life…”? And you’re like “yeah, yeah…”

Well, I did. I just had the best summer of my life. 

Which is why I forgot my Instagram account and I went on a very healthy social media detox. You’ll think - What do you mean? You enjoyed it so much and you didn’t share a single picture?  

Exactly. I was so much in the present moment that I didn’t feel the need to share anything of what I was doing or what I was experiencing. 

I was so much in Love my bubble that getting Likes was not my priority.

But I was feeling guilty. Things like "I'm not doing enough". "I'm not showing up enough" were a constant nagging voice in the back of my head.

Performance Anxiety Syndrome? Possibly.

But then it hit me.

Who am I living this life for? For the gram, or for myself? To show OFF, or to show UP?

So today, while I reflect back on my fantastic summer with the man I love the most in my life, here's a number of things I "achieved" - if that can be called achievement. For me, that was the utmost form of success:

• ✈️ I visited 6 countries in less than months

• 🐶 I took my dog Frida with me every step of the way, even if that meant going through a headache of paperwork and anxiety for every flight (it's very complicated where I live)

• 💃🏻 I attended a mind blowing music festival (Boom), where we celebrated music, life and radical love for a week immersed in nature

• 👩🏻‍💻 I allowed myself to work only "when I felt like it", without sense of guilt for "not being productive" all the time (yes, I am lucky enough to have set up my business in a way that gives me total freedom) - so liberating!

• 👵🏻👴🏻 I spent quality time with my grandparents - as they get older, the fear of not seeing them again next time I go home is horrible, so I decided to focus on enjoying time with them and being fully present with them

• ❤️ I took the connection with Will to a love level that I never imagined could be possible - I wish someone had told me sooner that this was available to us, and that's part of the reason why I do what I do in my work

I am not bragging. I just want to show you what’s possible. And I don’t want to give you the “follow your dreams” BS. The point is… it’s not BS!

The Universe really presents you with what you need and deserve, when you’re ready. If you know me enough, you know how practical I am - I couldn’t possibly write this if it wasn’t true. 

However, had this happened to me years ago, I would not have been ready. I would not have been capable of just relaxing in the present, because I still had some inner work to do. It took me years of tears, therapy, coaching and spiritual practices to get me on my feet and where I am today. And that's why I'm here today: to help you get there faster, sharing my experience, knowledge, epic fails and things that didn't work, so you don't have to go through the same pain.

TL;DR for all the skim readers like me 😇:

Last summer taught me what BEING PRESENT means. And what it can give you.

It is not the same as “stop planning and hope to find money on the street”. It means allowing yourself to:

1. Feel (all range of emotions - love, anger, sadness, vulnerability, doubt, happiness)

2. Do more of what you love without feeling guilty

3. Give yourself self-love and compassion

4. Give yourself permission 

5. Watch the magic happen

 At least for me.  

And whenever you’re ready, let's chat.